The Problem Isn't Uncertainty. It's Unsupported Uncertainty.

What supports you when the future remains unwritten?

When I look back on my life (and for anyone looking at it from the outside), it's easy to say I've had a high tolerance for uncertainty. Of course if you've read my book you understand that my whole life I've had to take risks because I never had anyone to rely on if things didn't go as planned.

That tolerance we build from adverse life experiences isn't just personal. It permeates how we show up in work, relationships, and everyday life.

I left a successful corporate career in early 2020 to build a business. I poured years into work that had no guarantees attached to it. Just two years ago, my husband left his own corporate career to join me in growing what I started.

I admit it looks bold, and it is. Having the conviction to do what you know deep down you're capable of. And to double down on the path less traveled is not for the faint of heart.

What people don't always see are the tough moments in between. The questions and self-doubt. The decisions that carried a lot of weight. The mornings where I woke up with a mind full of possibilities and a nervous system carrying the reality that none of them were a sure thing.

Like most ambitious people, I spent years believing resilience meant becoming better at handling uncertainty and ambiguity. Yet, I've come to understand something entirely different. The problem is never just uncertainty, it's unsupported uncertainty. That's a meaningful distinction.

Uncertainty is part of life. It's part of leadership. It's part of growth, entrepreneurship, parenting, relationships, and every meaningful pursuit I know.

Every major chapter of my life has required me to step forward before I had all the answers. And I bet if you reflect for a second, yours has too.

So, the issue was never the uncertainty itself. The issue was whether I had anything anchoring me while living inside it, because uncertainty without support becomes depletion.

It becomes overthinking, emotional reactivity, and a nervous system that never fully settles because it's constantly scanning for what might happen next.

Over the years, I've watched this play out with executives, founders, leadership teams, and frankly, myself. The leaders who navigate uncertainty most effectively aren't the ones who eliminate it. They're the ones who create anchors within it.

Research and neuroscience supports this awareness. When humans experience uncertainty, the brain naturally seeks predictability and a sense of control. It's one reason rituals exist across cultures, generations, faith traditions, sports teams, and families.

Rituals don't remove uncertainty. They create stability within it.

• A morning walk before opening your laptop.

• A few minutes of stillness before a difficult conversation.

• A transition between work and home that allows you to arrive fully present instead of carrying one role into the next.

• A weekly practice of asking yourself what is energizing you and what is draining you.

These moments may seem small, though they're anything but. They're the internal infrastructure that allows you to stay connected to your inner compass while navigating complexity. And that connection matters.

Some people may struggle when life becomes highly uncertain. More so, what I've witnessed is countless people struggle because they attempted to navigate uncertainty without anything grounding them in the process.

You're not calm because life is predictable. You're able to access inner peace when you've built practices that help you return to yourself when life isn't.

A question I've been sitting with lately:

Where in your life are you asking yourself to tolerate uncertainty without giving yourself the support to navigate it well? The answer may reveal exactly where a new personal ritual is needed most.

For 5 quicks strategies to lead with energy not exhaustion, see the piece I was selected to write for The Business Journals Career & Workplace section.

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